Quiet Chinese girl
So I went to this dinner with my aunt and her friend and the friend's daughter. She is going to the States doing a master in law. So we were all waiting for her because she had to go all the way from Lujiazui (Pudong) to Zhongshanpark (Puxi).
Well, when she arrived we started eating and she was so...i don't know how to describe it...not really quiet but still quiet. She just seemed rude and uninterested.
Her mum had to tell this girl who is 4 years older than me to ask me about questions about the States in front of me. It was hilarious. Can't she ask by herself without her mum advising her to?
I really tried to start a conversation with her, a good conversation should be like a ping pong match, me asking questions, while the other one also is asking me questions, but this conversation between us it was only me bothering, so annoying. The only questions she asked me was if I get the McDonald's toys at work (because our marketing agency takes care of the design and production of the happy meal toys).
And this girl is going to a foreign country alone, good luck!
Well, when she arrived we started eating and she was so...i don't know how to describe it...not really quiet but still quiet. She just seemed rude and uninterested.
Her mum had to tell this girl who is 4 years older than me to ask me about questions about the States in front of me. It was hilarious. Can't she ask by herself without her mum advising her to?
I really tried to start a conversation with her, a good conversation should be like a ping pong match, me asking questions, while the other one also is asking me questions, but this conversation between us it was only me bothering, so annoying. The only questions she asked me was if I get the McDonald's toys at work (because our marketing agency takes care of the design and production of the happy meal toys).
And this girl is going to a foreign country alone, good luck!
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posted by Shopgirl at 3:06 AM
4 Comments:
Interestingly, I had a girlfriend who does just like the girl.
I think this kind of girls particularly....can't say quite shy but somehow they do feel inferior. I think it's more like a Chinese thing with Chinese girls. 90% Chinese girls as I observed like to keep low profile. Unless some really confident ones feel good about themselves and they dun care how others think of them, they would really speak up. On the other hand, then it comes to talking how much is proper and improper.
It IS annoying. One time I hang out with my girlfriend and her boyfriend (well, not really a boyfriend boyfriend, I actually introduced him to her, and later on she managed to hook up with him). During the entire dinner, she wouldn't wanna talk, maybe because he is there with us, or perhaps she didn't wanna talk in English to embarrass herself (this guy is an Asian American). So basically at the dinner I tried really hard to maintain conversation with them; however, this guy was also very stupid all of sudden and wouldn't wanna talk too much. Can't wait to go back to the hotel room with her? God knows.
Quite unpleasant experience. So since then, I decided to not force myself to just not "lose my face". Why should we pressure ourself to be polite when somebody else really needs to know how to be socially polite and appreciate others' gestures, right?
So next time, nothing more, finish up your meal and get the hell outta there.
I'd say not all Chinese are like that but definitely I know exactly the type you described here. Often they have lived very sheltered lives under the protection of their family. But I think things are changing and MANY young now are very inquisitive and ask lots of questions through natural curiosity.
It's madness she is going abroad though and she will not benefit from the experience at all. She'll probably only have Chinese friends and not ever speak to a foreigner.
She is obviously an educated person, so maybe she resented being forced to have dinner and pretend to be interested in, a silly little self-obsessed airhead teenager.
I, not so long ago, had dinner with a girl who's going to a prestigious college in the US in the fall.She doesn't eat anything but Chinese food and doesn't speak to anyone but Chinese people. I wonder how she's going to survive the next four years.
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