My cousin is getting married
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My dear cousin is finally getting married, at the age of 27. Congratulations!!! I think that my cousin and his fiancee really represents "the China dream". They are both well-educated lawyers, work for big American lawfirms, have one apartment that they own, will buy a car soon(probably Audi), will probably also get two babies (This new China rule says that if both of you were an only child you are aloud to have 2 babies).
I asked my mum how he proposed and she looked at me saying What? Their parents agreed to it.
Maybe I don't want them to represent the New China dream after all...
[I took the picture in Häagen Dazs café in Jingan City Plaza]
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posted by Shopgirl at 6:58 PM
10 Comments:
omg. i know how 27 year olds look like. and he nor she comes close
This is indeed the China dream and it's good to see your blog reflecting very accurately modern China. Couples are very closely assessed by respective parents to ensure the "candidate" is acceptable. Unacceptable deal breakers for parents of the girl can include many things such as the guy doesn't OWN an apartment, his job is not good enough, his salary is not high enough, he's a foreigner, he's not tall enough, he's been married before, he has a kid from a previous relationship etc. How rigidly the parents stick to these depends on how marketable their daughter is. If she's almost 30 or heaven forbid, OVER 30, or pregnant, they will very likely overlook some minor faults in order to push the deal - and it IS a deal - through.
Typical comment by chinalover. China is returning - very fast - to backwards Confucean values. The communists failed. Thousands of heros died for nothing. Sad. And the "world" is applauding this "change".
I bet this chinalover is selling Amway products in his spare time.
Yeah, our family actually got one problem with her, and that was because she's not from an not enough nice family (live out in qingpu), but she has spent one year in the US reading a master programme, and she's under 30 and she works for McKinsey lawfirm, so they finally agreed to the marriage.
Sorry Anonymous, I didn't quite get what you're trying to say. I was mainly commenting on how odd the marriage process is here, where it is based more on position and background and less about whether the couple love each other. I wasn't criticising it, just noting the difference compared to where I come from (England).
Shopgirl, again, such a classic example of the evaluation process and how some things can be overlooked if there are other redeeming qualities. Priceless!
I think your cousin's story represents many Chinese couples: matchable social status, education backgrounds etc etc. Even though I consider myself a non-traditional Chinese girl, I side with this long-time-believed values. I believe that with a matchable background, couples feel more intimate because they share similar tastes or values. Nonetheless, I do look at other criteria such as personalities, initiatives and I think such match criteria matters more.
Yes, I agree with Yiren, the girl must have a respectable social background and education ..... and really big breasts :-p
So Siyan, is your mom currently interviewing suitable marriage candidates for you?
I think I have the ability to choose my future husband on my own.
pick me! pick me!!
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