Really now, she's not a golddigger

Let’s clear some things up right away. Most guys in China think they come in contact with golddiggers, they think all Shanghai girls are after their money/passport/inheritance etc. They are wrong, dreamers, attention seekers and boring. For the most part it’s not true at all. At least not in the sense that they are coming in contact with real golddiggers, skilled, hot, sexy, articulate, exciting and well educated women who can use their bodies, minds, hearts and emotions to fulfill all their monetary and life goals.

They are coming in contact with women from a different culture, who love, respect and care about their man just like any other women. Now, you need to know, everything your mother told you about what women really want is a lie; kind, caring, supportive, honest and really sweet romantic guy blah blah blah, that was just mom being nice and making your think she didn’t have sex before she got married.

What women are attracted to, and I mean all women be they white, black, latino, asian…humanoid, what they all naturally crave is a man with power, success, money, good looks, charm, sense of humour and control, because it gives them something they crave since the dawn of man(woman) and that’s…security.

Get over it. Men crave sex, Women crave security.
So unless the girl you are dating has gotten some of the following out of her man, I wouldn’t classify her as a golddigger:
1, A living quarters, house, apartment, villa, revenue property as a gift.
2, A business, either genuine or used to funnel money from his company into her "business" for them to share later.
3, A car, computer, luxury clothing, luxury accessories
4, Trips overseas
5, Art, wine collection, or a book deal.

Then get over it. You aren’t dating a real golddigger. You are dating a normal girl who craves what every other normal girl craves and will happily accept less if your kind, caring, supportive, alright looking, secure and fun. Just be smart about it. Oh, and nice to your mother despite the lies she told you.

By Cedric Iglesias